Pregnancy and motherhood is a difficult stage in a woman’s life – more so for teen moms. We spoke to women in their 40s who have gone through the struggles, pain and joys of being a mother when you least expect or want it.
Here are words of wisdom from 2 inspiring women we spoke with.
“It’s going to feel like you’re not worthy.”
“Coming from a strictly Christian family with conservative ways, being a teen mom was taboo,” said Esther Quinn, a pharmacist in Albany, New York.
“When you grew up being told that sex was wrong and you should be ashamed if you even think about it for a second, you can’t help but challenge those ‘core values’ when you finally get to do it. Having sex was my choice. I wasn’t forced to it.
“But getting pregnant was not. I was called all the hideous names you wouldn’t read from the Bible by people who swore their lives on the Bible.
The day I held my daughter, I felt like I wasn’t worthy. I wasn’t worthy of her angelic face or her little smiles. When you’re constantly told you don’t deserve love or respect just because of one mistake, it’s going to feel like you’re not worthy for such a wonderful gift. But you are. Trust me.”
“You don’t pin your mistakes on your child. You don’t call him a mistake in the first place.”
“I found out I was pregnant two months before High School graduation. I had to lie to my friends about it,” New Jersey businesswoman, Christine Yeun-Briggs said. “It wasn’t exactly the best feeling in the world – when everyone around you is moving forward with their lives while you had to put yours on hold.”
“After giving birth, I suffered from post-partum depression. I didn’t want to touch my baby. I even wished he wasn’t born at all. I blamed him ‘cause I couldn’t go to college. When I graduated college, I blamed him because I couldn’t take the really great internships because internships couldn’t pay for my son’s schooling.
One day, he asked me, ‘Mommy why do you hate me?’ I realized what I had done. You don’t pin your mistakes on your child. You don’t call him a mistake in the first place. If in your life before him, you weren’t taught how to love, you should be the first one to teach him that. Now, Rocky’s in college and I miss him everyday.”
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