Being a “ride or die” shouldn’t mean being a “doormat.”
It’s nice to be that person sticking with somebody through the ups and downs of life: be it a romantic partner, a best friend, or family; and it’s all because you genuinely love them and want to be there for them.
But how do you know you aren’t being abused in the process?
Being someone’s Ride or Die, as it is trendily termed these days, doesn’t mean you stick with them even when they’re being abusive: physically, emotionally, or even financially.
We’ve seen it on TV, or right before our eyes; somebody doesn’t leave their abusive partner in the hope that they’ll change, but when really it is out of fear what they might do.
That’s not what being the Ride or Die partner or friend is all about. It doesn’t mean taking a hit just because they’re frustrated or angry, and they feel the need to take it out on somebody who they think they can control.
Being the Ride or Die partner or friend means not leaving them hanging when the good times have suddenly come to a stop: maybe they were laid off from work, or got really sick, or is just generally in the dumps and is trying to climb out of it.
If you want to show love, by all means do so in a way that’s healthy for you both, and never tolerate disrespect or any abusive tendencies.
If you haven’t got it by now, it’s all about being a true friend to them: don’t leave them when the conviences that came with their friendship suddenly ends. You might think that that is one of the most basic things to do in a friendship, but you’d be surprised at how often people think and act on a friendship or partnership only when it’s beneficial for them.
But for the few who actually make friends or have a lover and intend for it to be the long haul, you also have all the right to the kind of love, friendship, and loyalty you’re 100% always willing to give out.