With all the horrible things we get bombarded with daily, from news about violence, inequality, social injustice, and poverty; coupled with our individual struggles as we go about, be assured that a moment of negativity is allowed to you.
To be able to vent your frustration is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself, because no human was built to keep their emotions inside without it eventually bubbling over; and that can lead to a lot of problems.
Your moment of negativity is when you can show the real you: the one who is exhausted, maybe a bit angry at authority figures, and who just needs a breather.
Nobody can be sunshine and flowers all the time; it’s exhausting. But if there are people like that who can manage to be the ray of constant positivity for others, then bless you; because we all need one of those.
But we want to add though, and take note because this is important: your moment of negativity must not be one that hurts others or yourself.
Go to your therapist, call your most trusted friend or family member, and find a healthy way to channel your negativity. It’s an oxymoron if there ever was one, but trust, it’s possible.
Find one of those ‘throw a dish at a wall and scream’ places, go for a rage run or walk, write in your journal, scratch a few pages for extra emphasis if you need to; rip up some old, non-donatable clothing (have your ever tried going at a ratty old pair of jeans with Rage Against the Machine in the background? Pure catharsis, girl); paint with no intention to make it nice, and if you have a gym membership, have a go at the punching bag or with a boxing coach. Anything, anything to channel your moment of negativity.
So be assured you don’t have to be Ms/ Mrs Smiling or Ms/Mrs Positive all the time: you can indulge in some good ol’ honest negativity too.