Kristen Bell, the charming and funny actress who doesn’t mind being a goofball with Game of Thrones nerd tendencies that we all love, recently penned an essay on kindness.
Penned for Cosmopolitan, Bell tells us how she learned that in life, being nice doesn’t always equate to being kind.
“Acts of kindness gave me an endorphin boost and made me feel emotionally and physically strong,” she wrote. “After I made this connection, I spent the majority of my days considering and implementing acts of nicety. I made sure to smile at strangers on the street, I donated time to charitable organizations, and I always did my best to make people feel good.”
The actress said the thought she had a handle on kindness until she met her husband, Dax.
“Early in our relationship, I went to him with a problem. I had hit a point in my career where I began comparing myself to other actresses,” Bell wrote. “I became increasingly resentful and disappointed when my success didn’t line up with others. I had, unknowingly, tied my self-worth to everyone other than myself. Most of my friends validated my feelings, and I loved them for it!”
“Then I turned to Dax. He looked me square in the eye and said, “Are you crazy? This is a self-destructive path. You can only compare your current self to your former self. You’ll get a comparison hangover if you constantly measure your worth against someone else.”
Bell said she was defensive at first, expecting Dax to feed her feelings of victimization, the way her friends did. But instead, the actor showed her true kindness by giving her some tough love.
“It was at that moment I realized being nice isn’t synonymous with being kind,” she said. “Being kind is more than a smile on the street or donating to charitable causes. It’s even more than making people feel good. Not to dismiss any of these acts. They are all wonderful and admirable and imperative to making the world go round.”
She added, “But kindness is different. Kindness is the high dive. It requires courage and vulnerability to choose to be honest with people when they may not want to hear it.”
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