In a world where women are criticized, objectified and underestimated, do we really need to tear each other down just to rise up?
*The following is a letter submitted to us in confidence and full permission to publish
I’ve been bombarded lately with a lot of drama at the workplace, and specifically, drama between women.
It might be a familiar scene to some of you working in corporate: a gaggle of women huddled together against a common enemy (usually also a woman), and the other camp will inevitably have her own set of sympathizers as well.
We’ll all probably gossip about each other to kingdom come unless some valiant soul who “just wants everyone to get along” will bring it up with the higher-ups to get them to fix the problem between everybody.
I’d like to be that person, but not just yet, because I’m hoping that everybody else in the same boat as I am in will see this and learn a lesson, especially if you’re a woman: you don’t have to drag somebody down just for you to come up.
All this drama started when *Sheryl from finance (* names are changed, duh) found out that *Mel and *Chi from marketing are continuing to get commissions from advertisements sold. (We all work in radio and print).
So Sheryl gets indignant, not knowing there’s company leeway that can allow anyone to sell advertisements, not just agents, and in turn receive commissions from the ads they’ve sold.
Basically, her drama is “No one’s told me!!” when it’s all outlined in our orientations and countless seminars the instant we get hired.
So she goes huffing and puffing to the head of marketing and sales, and even after it’s been explained to her that Mel and Chi have violated absolutely nothing, she then starts going around badmouthing the two, insinuating they’ve probably had ‘secret deals’ with the higher-ups that allowed them to earn commissions. Of course, her “friends” want to believe her, but are apologetic to everybody else about her behavior.
All this unnecessary hurt could have been avoided of course, if Sheryl just chose to suck it up and accept she didn’t keep informed with her work like the rest of us, try and sell some ad space too, and watch her commissions roll in.
Instead, her form of competition was to try and stop anybody else from earning just because she missed out on it since she got hired.
Now why would you go through that trouble?
To anybody reading this, whether you are like me embroiled in this environment of drama, or if you’re the one creating the drama, know this: You don’t have to bring others down just because you want to come out on top.
This doesn’t mean you don’t compete at all; play fair, and learn to stay in your lane while you’re on your own way up.